Dont underestimate the power of an AA build US DD (or Lo Yang)
I run AA mods and skills on all of my US DD captains, as well as Def Fire. Planes go poof. There is no argument that the Kidd is the best at the role, but the C Hull Benson, Sims, Fletcher and the Lo Yang are excellent at killing planes. I had to learn to play against other ships more cautiously, but I think it actually made me a better DD player. I think my record in the Lo Yang is 41 planes. My one and only Clear Sky achievement is in an AA spec Gearing.
Also, to reiterate what others have said, hitting the breaks and turning when you see the bombers circle is a crucial skill to master. It also works well at avoiding incoming artillery. For Torp Bombers, i try to always turn into them , that way the planes will cancel their run and try to readjust, or drop them parallel to my course. Sometimes a torp will hit but not detonate, maybe because it hasnt armed yet. I always wondered if that was a bug or intentional.